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Friday, July 26, 2024

How "You're Right" Decreases Stress

An excerpt from INC. - 

With 2 Words, Keanu Reeves Taught a Powerful Lesson on How to Decrease Stress. The answer is surprisingly simple.

Expert Opinion By Kelly Main, Writer and adviser @thekellymain


Keanu Reeves. Illustration: Inc; Photo: Getty Images

Stress is all around us, and for many of us, it is all-consuming. 

Slowly, it is sapping our energy, diminishing our productivity, and, of course, eating away not just at our happiness but our very ability to be happy. With 77 percent of people in the U.S. reportedly feeling burnt out, according to Deloitte, and anxiety becoming increasingly commonplace, stress is a devil most of us know. 

It's certainly one that I know too well -- despite my best efforts to pretend I don't. Sick of being stressed out, I went to the other side of the world, where I found an unexpected cure to burnout. Yet putting what I learned into practice proved no easy feat. Every which way we look, there is something going on and something to be stressed about. 

There are the wars plaguing the world, upcoming elections, mass layoffs, and fears of an impending economic collapse. If that weren't enough, there are crumbling relationships, deteriorating mental health, the bills that need to be paid, and the energy you don't have to deal with it all. 

At one point or another, or in one way or another, we've all been there. 

While we might be hard-pressed to get everyone to agree when families still can't get along, we can all agree we would benefit from less stress. With one short quote and two powerful key words Keanu Reeves taught a masterclass on how to decrease your stress levels, and with that, increase your happiness:

"I'm at a stage in my life where I stay out of discussions. Even if you say 1+1=5, you're right -- have fun."

"You're right" is the key word -- even if the person is, in fact, incorrect. While it might be one of the hardest things for us to say -- especially when we know we are right -- it is one of the fastest ways to decrease stress and anxiety. And it's not simply a brush-off that can quickly decrease your own stress -- it could also reduce the stress of those around you. 

Effectively using this simple, two-word anxiety reducer comes down to two things that help you uncover the cost-benefit of buying into the discussion. 

Water the flowers, not the weeds 

In other words, the things to which we give our energy grow. And so it's key to learn how to allocate your energy appropriately so that you focus on the things you want -- not the things you don't. 

https://www.inc.com/kelly-main/with-2-words-keanu-reeves-taught-a-powerful-lesson-on-how-to-decrease-stress.html


Rather on Netflix

 

An Olympic Legend Masters Jazz

An excerpt from the Washington Post -

He’s 77, an Olympic legend and just made a hip-hop jazz album

In Mexico City in 1968, Bob Beamon soared to one of the Games’ most enduring records. Now he has started a new life as a percussionist. 

By Les Carpenter



NEW YORK — The B.O.N.E. Squad is the kind of jazz band that makes your knees quiver and feet convulse. Hip-hop jazz they call it, filled with funk and groove and soul. To some in New York, the B.O.N.E. Squad is a local institution, with a standing gig as the opening act for a theater in the Bronx.

But on this January night, the B.O.N.E. Squad is in a packed Manhattan music hall called The Cutting Room to play songs from its latest album with its newest member: a tall, lean 77-year-old Olympic legend who is standing behind a set of bongo and conga drums. Stix Bones, the band’s leader and main drummer, introduces him

“The man himself,” he yells into a microphone. “Bob Beamon!”

And Beamon, who for nearly six decades has held the Olympic long jump record, starts slapping his palms across the congas. Bop-a-bop-a-bop. The beat builds fast, until it feels as though the whole room is filled with the sound of Bob Beamon playing congas. People in the crowd start to shout.

Beamon peers at them through round glasses that appear to change color in the light and look almost like a pair of Olympic rings. A small smile slides across his lips. Watching him, it would be impossible to imagine that less than a year earlier he could barely play, that he had never been trained and had to relearn many of the basics. Getting to this night, with this band, took months of agonizing work.

The B.O.N.E. Squad’s album cover is a black-and-white photograph of a brick apartment building that looks much like the 40 Projects in South Jamaica, Queens, where Beamon grew up. It bears two names: Stix Bones and Bob Beamon.

“I’m big time now,” Beamon said.

The album is called “Olimpik Soul.” The first song — an exaltation of saxophone, bass and drums — is called “Leap.”

https://www.washingtonpost.com/sports/olympics/interactive/2024/bob-beamon-olympic-long-jump-record-jazz-drums/

Honest Movie Reviews

 

Subtle Signs Folks Are Super Smart

An excerpt from Upworthy - 

How do you know someone is very smart? Here are 15 'subtle signs' people notice.

"You can understand both sides of an issue and still think one is wrong."

Tod Perry

Here are 15 “subtle” signs that someone is highly intelligent.

1. They admit their mistakes

"When someone can admit a mistake and they know they don’t know everything."

2. Great problem-solvers

"They're very good at problem-solving. Even if it's something they have no experience with they always approach the problem from the right angle."

3. They appreciate nuance

"'I can hold two opposing ideas in my head at the same time.' Anyone who is willing to do that is intriguing to me. Especially with polarizing issues. They might actually be interesting to talk to."

4. They say 'I don't know'

"I like to call it being smart enough to know how stupid you are."

"100% this. I have a good friend who is a teaching professor at Cambridge. He is acutely aware of how ‘little’ he knows about areas outside his specialization."

5. They have self-doubt

"They struggle with imposter syndrome. Dumb people always think they’re [great]."

"It can happen but I’ve met plenty who don’t really doubt themselves. Instead, they take not knowing or not having any experience as an opportunity, just like people go down interesting internet rabbit holes. Really smart people can view mistakes as opportunities for growth and inexperience as an opportunity to gather new experiences."

The great American poet Charles Bukowski once wrote, “The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts and the stupid ones are full of confidence,” and according to science, he’s correct.

“Ignorance is associated with exaggerated confidence in one’s abilities, whereas experts are unduly tentative about their performance,” Stephan Lewandowsky Chair of Cognitive Psychology, University of Bristol, writes for the World Economic Forum. “This basic finding has been replicated numerous times in many different circumstances. There is very little doubt about its status as a fundamental aspect of human behavior.”

6. They ask questions

"They are ok with being perceived as 'stupid' by asking questions — if we hold back in fear, we'll never truly learn. Plus, it's a good way to show others it's ok to question things if you don't understand — better off if we're on the same page instead of hoping things work out without being informed."

https://www.upworthy.com/how-do-you-know-someone-is-very-smart-here-are-15-subtle-signs-people-notice

A Former Slave's Response To His Master Wanting Him Back

From Upworthy - 

Formerly enslaved man's response to his 'master' wanting him back is a literary masterpiece

"I would rather stay here and starve — and die, if it come to that — than have my girls brought to shame by the violence and wickedness of their young masters."

By Tod Perry, Upworthy Staff



In 1825, at the approximate age of 8, Jordan Anderson (sometimes spelled "Jordon") was sold into slavery and would live as a servant of the Anderson family for 39 years. In 1864, the Union Army camped out on the Anderson plantation and he and his wife, Amanda, were liberated. The couple eventually made it safely to Dayton, Ohio, where, in July 1865, Jordan received a letter from his former owner, Colonel P.H. Anderson. The letter kindly asked Jordan to return to work on the plantation because it had fallen into disarray during the war.

On Aug. 7, 1865, Jordan dictated his response through his new boss, Valentine Winters, and it was published in the Cincinnati Commercial. The letter, entitled "Letter from a Freedman to His Old Master," was not only hilarious, but it showed compassion, defiance, and dignity. That year, the letter would be republished in theNew York Daily Tribune and Lydia Marie Child's "The Freedman's Book."

The letter mentions a "Miss Mary" (Col. Anderson's Wife), "Martha" (Col. Anderson's daughter), Henry (most likely Col. Anderson's son), and George Carter (a local carpenter).

Dayton, Ohio,
August 7, 1865
To My Old Master, Colonel P.H. Anderson, Big Spring, Tennessee

Sir: I got your letter, and was glad to find that you had not forgotten Jordon, and that you wanted me to come back and live with you again, promising to do better for me than anybody else can. I have often felt uneasy about you. I thought the Yankees would have hung you long before this, for harboring Rebs they found at your house. I suppose they never heard about your going to Colonel Martin's to kill the Union soldier that was left by his company in their stable. Although you shot at me twice before I left you, I did not want to hear of your being hurt, and am glad you are still living. It would do me good to go back to the dear old home again, and see Miss Mary and Miss Martha and Allen, Esther, Green, and Lee. Give my love to them all, and tell them I hope we will meet in the better world, if not in this. I would have gone back to see you all when I was working in the Nashville Hospital, but one of the neighbors told me that Henry intended to shoot me if he ever got a chance.

I want to know particularly what the good chance is you propose to give me. I am doing tolerably well here. I get twenty-five dollars a month, with victuals and clothing; have a comfortable home for Mandy, — the folks call her Mrs. Anderson, — and the children — Milly, Jane, and Grundy — go to school and are learning well. The teacher says Grundy has a head for a preacher. They go to Sunday school, and Mandy and me attend church regularly. We are kindly treated. Sometimes we overhear others saying, "Them colored people were slaves" down in Tennessee. The children feel hurt when they hear such remarks; but I tell them it was no disgrace in Tennessee to belong to Colonel Anderson. Many darkeys would have been proud, as I used to be, to call you master. Now if you will write and say what wages you will give me, I will be better able to decide whether it would be to my advantage to move back again.

As to my freedom, which you say I can have, there is nothing to be gained on that score, as I got my free papers in 1864 from the Provost-Marshal-General of the Department of Nashville. Mandy says she would be afraid to go back without some proof that you were disposed to treat us justly and kindly; and we have concluded to test your sincerity by asking you to send us our wages for the time we served you. This will make us forget and forgive old scores, and rely on your justice and friendship in the future. I served you faithfully for thirty-two years, and Mandy twenty years. At twenty-five dollars a month for me, and two dollars a week for Mandy, our earnings would amount to eleven thousand six hundred and eighty dollars. Add to this the interest for the time our wages have been kept back, and deduct what you paid for our clothing, and three doctor's visits to me, and pulling a tooth for Mandy, and the balance will show what we are in justice entitled to. Please send the money by Adams's Express, in care of V. Winters, Esq., Dayton, Ohio. If you fail to pay us for faithful labors in the past, we can have little faith in your promises in the future. We trust the good Maker has opened your eyes to the wrongs which you and your fathers have done to me and my fathers, in making us toil for you for generations without recompense. Here I draw my wages every Saturday night; but in Tennessee there was never any pay-day for the negroes any more than for the horses and cows. Surely there will be a day of reckoning for those who defraud the laborer of his hire.

In answering this letter, please state if there would be any safety for my Milly and Jane, who are now grown up, and both good-looking girls. You know how it was with poor Matilda and Catherine. I would rather stay here and starve — and die, if it come to that — than have my girls brought to shame by the violence and wickedness of their young masters. You will also please state if there has been any schools opened for the colored children in your neighborhood. The great desire of my life now is to give my children an education, and have them form virtuous habits.

Say howdy to George Carter, and thank him for taking the pistol from you when you were shooting at me.

From your old servant,
Jordon Anderson

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Great Advice From a Kid

 

@jeronimoooo0000

Homeboy better seize the day, his friends brain was on full at 8am

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What's White Privilege Worth?

 An excerpt from The Nation - 

Can You Put a Dollar Amount on White Privilege?

Tracie McMillan’s The White Bonus attempts to quantify the literal cost of racism in America.

By KRISTEN MARTIN

                                    The first family to move into the Levittown development in New York, 1947.

(Photo by Edna Murray / Newsday RM via Getty Images)


When Tracie McMillan was a student at New York University in the mid-1990s, she landed an internship at The Village Voice and worked under Wayne Barrett, an investigative journalist who considered himself a “detective for the people.” Barrett’s tutelage shaped McMillan’s mission: “To hold the powerful to account by reporting rigorously and telling full, honest stories about the poor.” McMillan came to focus her own journalism career on the travails of American workers—particularly those struggling to earn a living wage—primarily through the lens of food. In outlets like City Limits, McMillan explored New York City’s food deserts; later, her first book, The American Way of Eating: Undercover at Walmart, Applebee’s, Farm Fields and the Dinner Table, exposed the underpayment of undocumented farm laborers and the racial and gender inequities in restaurant kitchens. She would come to identify as working-class herself, in part because she barely earned more than her subjects. 

McMillan had grown up white and middle-class in an exurb of Detroit. Her parents had jobs good enough to afford home ownership, albeit with help from their own parents. This domestic stability soon crumbled, however. On New Year’s Day 1982, when McMillan was 5, her mother was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis and soon after suffered a debilitating, traumatic brain injury in a car accident. She lived the rest of her life in institutional care. When McMillan lost her mother—first to institutionalization, then to death at age 44 in 1993—her father, who had long struggled to control his temper, took out his rage on her. But even these adversities did not cause the family to lose their class position.

Nonetheless, McMillan saw herself as downwardly mobile because she refused to rely on her abusive father’s money. Unlike many of her NYU peers, she worked multiple jobs throughout college to pay for rent, living expenses, and a portion of tuition. Though McMillan’s upbringing was full of personal loss and maltreatment, her economic precarity in young adulthood was a choice—and, as she would come to realize, she was never truly without a safety net. Even when she went undercover as a grape-picker, Walmart shelf-stocker, and in the kitchen of an Applebee’s for The American Way of Eating and mostly lived off her wages from those jobs, McMillan’s connection to her coworkers was tenuous. They may have had similar paychecks, but her skin color ensured that she was treated differently. She was buoyed all along the way by her whiteness.

In The White Bonus: Five Families and the Cash Value of Racism in America, McMillan comes to terms with what her race has given her, turning her investigative eye toward telling a “full, honest” story about whiteness. She attempts to provide a literal accounting for the monetary difference in how white Americans like herself “directly benefit from racism,” tallying, in dollar amounts, the flip side of “‘the ‘Black tax’—the higher costs faced by Black Americans who have been denied so much of the aid extended freely to whites.” This “white bonus” has its roots in public policies for housing, employment, education, crime, and social welfare, as well as the accrual and distribution of familial wealth facilitated by generations of racist policies in both the public and private sectors. As the book unfolds, McMillan tracks how she and four other middle-class white families she profiles have profited from racism—and, ultimately, what racism has cost them. 

But The White Bonus has an inherent flaw, one McMillan acknowledges in the introduction. “I cannot take a full measure of the material benefits of racism—and, as many economists have told me, it is likely that no one can,” she writes. “Racism is too complex, too slippery, too multifaceted to pin down its value in a definitive way…. any estimate I offer will be woefully, dramatically, impossibly insufficient.” Still, McMillan proceeds to offer estimates, down to the cent, in “The White Bonus Index” at the back of the book. Reading The White Bonus, it’s hard not to wonder why McMillan proceeded with this methodology. Her book attempts to answer whether the benefits of racism are worth their cost to white Americans, but in taking an individualist approach to a systemic problem, it poses another question: Whom is McMillan really trying to hold to account with this rough accounting?

McMillan begins her “story of white advantage in America” with her grandparents, focusing on how housing policies from the early 1900s through World War II allowed them to build wealth. She proceeds to take the reader through two more generations of her own family’s finances through an analysis of the federal, state, and local policies that have long subsidized life for white people at the expense of taxpayers of color.

https://www.thenation.com/article/archive/white-bonus-tracie-cotton-review/

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Job Interview Red Flags

An excerpt from the Daily Mail - 

Job recruiter reveals the biggest RED FLAGS that instantly turn employers off during an interview

Emily Levine, from LA, said there are a few simple mistakes that people make

She said sharing too much about what you expect can turn off employers

The expert also advised against seeming overeager to get promoted at first

By LILLIAN GISSEN FOR DAILYMAIL.COM

A recruiter with more than a decade of experience has shared the biggest 'red flags' that will instantly turn off employers during a job interview. 

Emily Levine - executive vice president at Career Group Companies, from Los Angeles, California, who has worked in recruiting since 2010 - recently told Business Insider about the worst things that people can do while meeting with prospective new employers.

She explained that the way you handle yourself and the information you divulge during a job interview is vital.

And according to Emily, there are a few simple mistakes that people make that often cost them the position. 

First, she warned against sharing too much about what you expect from the position at first.

She also said seeming 'overeager to get promoted instead of focusing on the job they applied for' could be a major red flag to employers.

'[Already thinking about your next steps] sounds the alarm in the interviewer's mind,' she dished. 

In addition, Emily recommended that people do as much research about the company they re applying to before going in for an interview.

She said interviewers can always tell when someone is 'winging it,' and can be turned off by that. 

'Even if they're provided with the link of who they're meeting with, [some people] show up completely blind, and they have no idea of anything about the company or the person that they're interviewing with,' she explained. 'Which is just so insulting.'

If you're scheduled to have a virtual interview rather than one in person, Emily added that where you decide to do it matters more than you might think.

She said that employers may be unhappy if you do the interview while you're in the midst of doing something else or if you seem 'too comfortable' during the chat.

Continue at https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-13659457/job-recruiter-red-flags-employer-interview.html

Miss Kansas Takes a Stand

 

#blackAF | Tyler Perry Scene | Netflix


Trump's Attack Backfired Quick

An excerpt from Huff Post - 

Trump's 4-Word Attack On Kamala Harris Gets Turned Back At Him In Most Humiliating Way

The former president's insult was quickly turned into a reminder of his own recent past.

By Ed Mazza

Donald Trump’s latest attack on Vice President Kamala Harris quickly backfired on social media as his critics used his insult against him.

One day after President Joe Biden dropped his reelection bid and endorsed Harris, Trump dismissed her as “dumb as a rock,” causing the phrase to trend on X.

But most of those messages weren’t in support of the former president.

Instead, Trump’s critics used the phrase to remind him of some of his most infamous claims and comments, from injecting disinfectant as a potential COVID-19 treatment to windmill cancer to the time he looked up at the sun during an eclipse:


https://www.huffpost.com/entry/donald-trump-dumb-rock-insult_n_669f1460e4b03375f56ef8ed 

VIRAL: Pete Buttigieg utterly HUMILIATES Trump's new VP pick live on air


Monday, July 1, 2024

Unwritten Rules of Work

 

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First Responders Tell What You Should & Shouldn't Do In Emergencies

An excerpt from Buzzfeed - 

First Responders Are Revealing What You Should And Should NOT Do In Dangerous Situations, And Please, Take Notes

"EMT here. DO NOT put your feet on the dashboard. You don't want to see what happens if that airbag goes off."

by Liz Richardson, BuzzFeed Staff

14. "My husband is a SAR (Search and Rescue) pilot. The one thing that shows up best on his night vision goggles is flicking a lighter. So, always pack a lighter, and when you hear the chopper, flick it — don't just keep it lit!"

15. "Always listen to your inner voice! If it tells you to leave, then leave."

18. "Use the 'Health' app on your iPhone to enter the medications taken, medical issues, allergies, and everything else medical for you and your family. This way, it's easily accessible when you're stressed out and frantic. Make sure the same info is on your family's phones, too. I'm not familiar with Android phones, but it wouldn't be shocking for them to have their version of the same app. Better yet, if you or a family member has a medical condition like epilepsy or is allergic to common drugs like penicillin, get them a Medic Alert bracelet, necklace, wristband, shoelace slide-on, watchband clip-on, or any other assorted products. As a nurse who often worked in the ER, we actively looked for and used them, even the wallet cards. We instantly could access whatever medical info you input into their system."

"When it comes to kids staying with grandparents or family and friends, I can't count how many times I have been able to access the child's medical info through Medic Alert, which saved a life. Giving us the number to a pediatrician's office is helpful, but reaching someone with access to the needed medical records can take hours. A yearly fee varies depending on services and the number of families using the service, but it's covered under healthcare spending accounts. The fee is tax-deductible, too. Some insurance companies cover the cost of serious medical conditions, and Medic Alert offers free services for those who qualify. Medic Alert can even store your emergency contacts, the contact info for every doctor you see, a copy of your advanced directives, if you're a registered organ donor, and more. Even putting your medical info on a 3" x5" index card, laminating it, and keeping it in your purse/wallet is priceless in an emergency when you are unconscious, your phone is locked and doesn't have emergency access to the Health app activated, and/or there's no one with you that knows you're a type I diabetic or severely allergic to Vancomycin."

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Tuesday, June 25, 2024

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From High School Buddies to Champions

An excerpt from SBNation - 

Jayson Tatum and Matthew Tkachuk were high school friends, now they’re both champions

The Celtics and the Panthers winning the NBA and NHL titles means these BFFs have PLENTY to celebrate.

By James Dator 

The Florida Panthers are Stanley Cup Champions, winning a hard-fought Game 7 against the Oilers to win their first title in team history. It comes just after the Boston Celtics won the NBA Championship — and at the center of both teams is a remarkable bond between friends.



Jayson Tatum of the Celtics and Matthew Tkachuk of the Panthers are long-time friends, going back to their days at Chaminade Prep School in the suburbs of St. Louis. Tatum, a promising basketball player befriended Tkachuk, who wanted to follow in his father’s footsteps into the NHL (Matthew is the son of the legendary Keith Tkachuk).

The two spent time together, pushing each other, even making goofy videos together — as this assignment Tatum made for school stars Tkachuk briefly.



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Old Ladies' Names Getting New Lives

From MamasUncut - 

50 Popular Old Lady Names & Their Meanings


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https://mamasuncut.com/old-lady-names-making-comeback-2024/step8/

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The Reason Why East Asians Don't Have Body Odor

An excerpt from NBCNews - 

Social media is heating up over why Asians don’t have body odor

Between 80 and 95% of East Asians have little to none of that typical acidic body odor smell. And it all comes down to a gene mutation. 

By Kimmy Yam

While some extra deodorant swipes can feel like a necessity during these sweltering temps, there’s one group that’s not really sweating it. 

Social media users are using the heat wave as a chance to point out many Asians simply don’t smell. According to experts, there’s actually a gene mutation behind it. 

Between 80 and 95% of East Asians have a dysfunction of the ABCCII gene, which is linked to smelly pits, a number of studies say. And this means their bodies don’t release the same acidic odor smell the rest of the population does when exposed to hot temperatures and perspiration.

“It’s just going to be a lot less pungent and a lot less prevalent,” Dr. Madalyn Nguyen, an Oregon-based dermatologist, said of those with East Asian ancestry, including herself. “So we can go a little bit longer without needing to mask our body odor.”

~~~~~~~~~~

Nguyen explained that body odor is primarily associated with apocrine sweat glands, found in the armpit and groin areas. For those without the mutation in the ABCC11 gene, protein in those sweat glands helps transport fatty compounds, or lipids, from the cell into the sweat. The bacteria on the skin breaks down those lipids in the oilier, thicker sweat to produce body odor. But for those with the mutation, the protein doesn’t function that way. 

“That transporter doesn’t work. And we don’t have those same lipids that cross into the earwax and into the sweat,” Nguyen explained of East Asians, adding that a dysfunctional ABCC11 gene is also connected to drier, less goopy earwax. “So less of that means less body odor, and also translates to dry earwax.” 

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/asian-america/east-asians-no-body-odor-dont-need-deodorant-rcna156778

Questions To Ask Your Parents While You Have the Chance

An excerpt from LoveToKnow - 

75 Big Questions to Ask Your Parents Before They Die

Of course you have questions for a dying parent, but maybe you're unsure where to start. Use these suggestions to get this meaningful conversation rolling.

By Gabrielle Applebury, LMFT

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Questions to Ask Your Parents Before They Die

Asking your parent or parents questions before they pass away can help you better understand their life, their choices, as well as how they'd like to be remembered after they've passed. You may consider recording their answers in some way to have as a keepsake. You can do so by writing the answers in a notebook, video recording their responses, or audio recording your conversation with them.

Family Questions

Family questions you may consider asking:

  • What were your nicknames growing up?
  • Can you tell me a little about your siblings?
  • Who were you closest to in your immediate family?
  • What were your parent(s) or caregiver(s) like when you were growing up?
  • What lessons were stressed in your household?
  • How was family conflict resolved?
  • How was love expressed?
  • Who was the funniest member in the family?
  • Who was the most competitive?
  • Did you have any family pets?
  • Where did you live?
  • Did you share a room with anyone?
  • What memory exemplifies your family's values?
  • What was a difficult situation that your family overcame together?
  • What did your parent(s) or caregiver(s) do for work?

From janitor to health care hero


Got Food Poisoning and Others Didn't?

An excerpt from HuffPost -  

So THAT'S Why Some People Get Food Poisoning And Others Don't

Yes, even when you have the exact same meal.

By Sydney Wingfield

Have you ever experienced food poisoning when none of your dining mates got sick from the same meal? It’ll make you question whether you really have food poisoning at all. But as it turns out, it’s entirely possible that several people can eat the same food and only one person can contract food poisoning.

“People always come into the emergency room stating, ‘I know I don’t have food poisoning because I’m the only one who got sick,’” said board-certified emergency physician Dr. Justin Mazur. “Patient education here is critical, as it is more common that not everyone gets sick from your garden variety food poisoning.”

If you’re not familiar with what food poisoning is, it refers to a plethora of gastrointestinal symptoms, including nausea, vomiting, diarrhea and fever.

“The symptoms are generally attributed to food that is contaminated with a virus, bacteria or, less commonly, a parasite,” Mazur said.

Why do some people get food poisoning and others don’t after eating the same thing?

To put it simply, your body may not be able to fight off food poisoning. Every single person is completely different in a multitude of ways, including their immune system and gut microbiome, the home of trillions of microorganisms that can influence your digestive system and overall health.

When it comes to food poisoning, it completely disrupts your gut microbiome, which is why you feel so sick. If you and your friend eat the same undercooked hamburger and you have an unhealthy microbiome while they have a healthier one, you may experience a bit of an upset stomach afterward.

Continue reading:

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/food-poisoning-why-you-get-it_l_66699ffde4b076bcfea12fd2


A Lasting Lesson We All Need

 

https://www.upworthy.com/teachers-rule-about-something-you-cant-change-in-30-seconds-is-a-lesson-for-all-ages 

HOFer Reggie Jackson Talks About The Racism He Experienced In Birmingham


Snoop Runs the 200!

 

Saturday, June 1, 2024

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Blacks @ NASA!

An excerpt from Because of Them We Can -

BLACK NASA EMPLOYEES GO VIRAL AFTER SHARING OFFICIAL HEADSHOTS

By BOTWC

There’s nothing we love more than to see Black people unabashedly share their accomplishments and encourage one another. Especially when locs, natural hair and braids are involved!

Thanks to Tyrone Jacobs, and his recent viral post to X, Black employees at NASA have started sharing their official government headshots and we can’t get enough.



https://www.becauseofthemwecan.com/blogs/the-feels/black-nasa-employees-go-viral-after-sharing-official-headshots 

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HBCU Students Make History

An excerpt from YahooFinance - 

These 3 Students Have Made HBCU History After Winning Astronaut Scholarships To Pursue STEM Careers

By Samantha Dorisca

Three Black women are making history at North Carolina Agricultural and Technical State University in Greensboro, NC.

According to WXII-12 in Winston-Salem, NC, students Kristi Barnes, Maya Odom, and Breyana Robinson have been selected as recipients of the 2023 Astronaut Scholarship. The scholarship is offered by the Astronaut Scholarship Foundation (ASF), which is a 501(c)3 nonprofit organization established in 1984 by a group including the six surviving members of the “Mercury 7,” the U.S.’s first astronauts, per its website. The organization provides over 60 scholarships yearly.

Additionally, this scholarship is “among the largest merit-based monetary scholarships” distributed to science, technology, engineering, and mathematics (STEM) undergraduate juniors and seniors.” Those who are recipients are supported with $15,000 and will receive mentorship and guidance from astronauts, top-tier executives, and industry leaders.

“I was thankful to get the scholarship,” Odom, an aspiring computer engineer, told WXII-12.

Robinson, an animal science major, commented, “To be able to win this award, it was surreal. I was like, ‘Oh my gosh’… It definitely helps me towards my goals because I want to go to vet school. I want to go to grad school.”

Winning the scholarship is a notable achievement in itself. It also marks the first time a Historically Black College and University (HBCU) has had more than one student honored with the Astronaut Scholarship simultaneously, WXII-12 noted.

https://finance.yahoo.com/news/3-students-made-hbcu-history-210443887.html

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Looking For Good Eats in Dallas? You're Welcome.

An excerpt from Travel Noire -

8 BLACK-OWNED RESTAURANTS TO VISIT IN DALLAS, TEXAS

Black restaurant owners are proving that Dallas deserves a seat at the table when it comes to the best culinary cities in the country.

By Mitti Hicks

Dallas will surprise foodies. While its southern sister, Houston, gets all the love for its flavorful food scene, Dallas is not lacking despite its nickname as the “City of Hate.” In fact, there’s a lot to love about Dallas’s food scene thanks to the Black restaurant owners providing some of the most flavorful and creative dishes throughout the metro.

Between fine dining, take-out, and gourmet fast food, Black restaurant owners are proving that Dallas deserves a seat at the table when it comes to the best culinary cities in the country. Get your appetites ready because the meals and flavors are big inside Black-owned restaurants in Dallas.

BIG CHICKEN



Retired Hall of Fame National Basketball Association star Shaquille O’Neal is the brains behind the national chain Big Chicken. While people know the center for his impressive stats as a professional basketball player, he’s giving people a taste of his childhood. The menu reflects flavors and favorites from his childhood. 

Big Chicken is known for its finger-licking chicken sandwiches. Guests can pair the sandwiches with the brand’s signature dish: Lucille’s Mac ‘n’ Cheese, just like his mom made it.

  • Location: Fort Worth
  • Owner: Shaquille O’Neal
  • Type of Cuisine: American
  • Menu Spotlight: The Ultimate Chicken Sandwich features its signature mac ‘n’ cheese, crispy fried onions, roasted garlic, and barbecue aioli sauce. A simpler option is available for people who don’t want the dressings. The Original Big Chicken Sandwich has pickles and the secret “Shaq sauce.”
  • Before you go: The Fort Worth location officially opens in late 2024.

INVASION



Chef Airric Heidelberg is the brains behind Invasion, a trendy and modern restaurant open for lunch, dinner, and late-night hours. He created a unique menu filled with what he calls “gourmet fast food.” His burgers and chicken sandwiches are a specialty packed with so much flavor that the restaurant is known as one of the best chicken sandwiches in the city.

  • Location: East Dallas
  • Owner: Chef Airric Heidelber
  • Type of Cuisine: American, “Gourmet Fast Food”
  • Menu Spotlight: The Kardi B is one of the most popular sandwiches on the menu. It comprises buttermilk-fried chicken breast, spicy mayo, and a pickled coleslaw jalapeno blend on a buttery toasted bun. Pair the Kardi B with Invasion Potatoes, country-style potatoes tossed in house-made invasion sauce and a sour cream ranch.
  • Before you go: The restaurant is not open on Mondays. You can order before you go.

Thursday, May 30, 2024

Arabic Baby Names

An excerpt from Parade - 

205 Beautiful Arabic Names and Their Meanings to Inspire You

From last names to baby girl and boy names—we've got them all.

By LAURA BECK

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1. Layla – meaning "night"


2. Omar – meaning "flourishing"


3. Fatima – meaning "to abstain"


4. Ali – meaning "sublime, supreme"


5. Zara – meaning "flower"


6. Ibrahim – meaning "father of many"


7. Noor – meaning "light"


8. Ahmed – meaning "highly praised"


9. Aisha – meaning "living, prosperous"


10. Yusuf – meaning "God increases"


https://parade.com/living/arabic-baby-names


He's Made New Fans All Over the World By His Kind Gesture, Including Me

An excerpt from InspireMore - 

Coldplay’s Chris Martin Stops On Way To Concert To Pick Up 64-Yr-Old Fan Struggling To Walk

By Kelsey Bjork


At 64 years old, Saundra Glenn says she doesn’t really go to music festivals anymore. That said, when she learned that Coldplay was making a rare visit to her UK city, Luton, she couldn’t resist. The popular band was set to perform during Radio 1’s Big Weekend. Everything was going smoothly at first, but on the way there Saundra began to struggle with what she calls her “dodgy right hip.”

As a result, Saundra took a moment to rest just as she was walking toward the accessibility box office. For a moment, she even considered going home to watch the performance. But the thought of never seeing Coldplay in her hometown again made her stay. Then, just in time, a black Mercedes parked next to her. A woman from inside offered to pick the struggling fan up — little did Saundra know, however, that Coldplay front-man, Chris Martin, was inside!

“The door opens and I said, ‘Oh that’s Chris Martin, I can’t get in with him’ and they said ‘yes you can,'” Saundra recalls.

As you can imagine, the ride to their destination is one that Saundra will never forget! In fact, the two of them became fast friends, joking around like “two old women,” as Saundra describes them.

https://www.inspiremore.com/coldplays-chris-martin-stops-on-way-to-concert-to-pick-up-64-yr-old-fan-struggling-to-walk/