Balance

Balance.

I've been thinking about this a lot lately.

The importance of having balance in our lives.  In our relationships.  Both personal and professional.

The example that readily comes to mind is balance in marriage.

I see it like the scales of justice.

There is the man and the woman on either side, each contributing to the alliance. Some days the scales are tipped way off in one direction or the other, but overall, they are balanced, with each making a meaningful contribution overall.

This is not deep philosophical stuff I'm referring to.

This is easy.

Simple.

Yet, critical to maintaining the balance in a relationship.

For example . . .

You cook.

I clean.

You wash.

I dry.

You take care of the kid(s).

I clean the house.

And of course, vice versa, in each of these examples.

Here's what I know for sure.

It's not the big things that causes relationships to fail.

It's the little things.

The stuff that causes it to be off balance.

Like when one is giving way more than the other, and that becomes the new normal.

And when things are off balance, then what?

Does talking about it get things back on track?

If so, that's great.

But what happens when the mold is set, and discussing it doesn't bring the necessary changes, but excuses, excuses, and more excuses.

Then what?

Does the guy/gal who's carrying the heavy load (sometimes the ridiculously heavy load) stick around, listening to the excuses, knowing things are not likely to change, or do they cut their losses and bolt?

I know what I would do.

How about you?

Goodbye Sac. Hello Houston.

The week I spent in Sacramento just flew by.  It seemed before I had my feet on the ground good, it was time to go.

HUGE thanks to all of the folks (family and friends), who helped to make my Sacramento stop such a special one.

I'm currently in Houston, chillin' and relaxin' with Forrest and Jannie.  They make wherever they are home for themselves and everyone who enters their place.

Side note - I was having some issues with my computer, so while I was in Sac, I turned it in to Apple for repair.  I just received it, and I'm drafting this post on it.  The good news - it's like new again.  YEAH!  The no-so-good news - I'll have to wait until I return to Abu Dhabi to restore all of my files.  Thankfully, they're backed up.

Anyway, that's my excuse for the delay in posting.

I have lots of pictures from these trips, but it may be a minute before I go through them, so please bear with me.

More soon.

Cheers.

Ingenious

This vending machine dispenses food for stray dogs in exchange for recycled bottles.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/07/23/pugedon-vending-machine_n_5606494.html

Powerful Story

I'm in Sacramento and loving every minute of it.

Thanks Tiff, Shana, Laura, Stephan and Candas!

More on my Sac visit soon.

In the meantime, check out this video.  It's thirteen minutes long, but well worth your time.

http://www.upworthy.com/he-would-brag-to-his-fellow-soldiers-about-his-girlfriend-all-the-time-there-was-just-1-problem?c=upw0

California Forecast?

Coney Island

Here are a few pictures of Zadie (three-and-a-half years old) on our adventures at Coney Island.

Starting the day at the Famous Nathan's Hotdog Stand

Zadie enjoying the thrill.

Fire Captain Zadie to the rescue!

We've got a few more days of fun before I leave for California on Tuesday, July 22.

Oxford University, Bampton Village and Downton Abbey

My apologies for the delay in posting.  The days (in London and here in New York) have been jammed packed.

My last full day in London was on a guided tour of Oxford, home of Oxford University, Bampton Village (where the town scenes are shot for Downton Abbey) and Highclere Castle, the home used in Downton Abbey.

What an extraordinary day it was!

Oxford University, located about 60 miles from London.

One of the 38 colleges that make up Oxford University

This picture doesn't capture how magnificent this building is.

Another college

Christchurch College

More campus views

More campus views 2

More campus views 3

Centuries old cemetery beside a church in the town of Oxford

Fancy hotel in Oxford

This church is in Bampton Village that is used
for the town scenes in Downtown Abbey.
It is where Mary and Matthew were married.
It is about 90 minutes from London.

This is Matthew Crawley's mother's house.

This is a photo of Edith on her wedding day approaching the church.

This is also a photo, one of Mr. Carson and the doctor(?).

A tour group heading to the entrance of the church.

Another view of the church.

Highclere Castle.
It is absolutely stunning to see as you drive up.
It sits on acres and acres of land with nothing else around it for miles.
It backs up to rolling hills.
The direct distance from London is about 70 miles.
It took us about two hours with the stops.

I'm standing at the front entrance.
Unfortunately taking pictures is forbidden inside the castle
because it is the actual home of the Earl and Countess of Carnarvon.

Another view of Highclere Castle

The yard surrounding the castle is park-like.
Just stunningly green and luscious. 

This is the front of the castle.

Another view of the front.

This is part of the Secret Garden, found in one of the far corners of the property.

These horses were also on the property.

This guy was really friendly.

I have to say it again . . . what a day!

Saying Grace

These dogs have more sense than a lot of us.

This clip is two minutes long.  Be sure to watch it to the end to see them clean up after themselves.

Pretty amazing.

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=604775426257928

Hat tip to Forrest for sharing this gem.

Novel Idea

For all you men tackling the job of combing your daughters' hair, watch this clever method.  It's 30 seconds long.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/07/15/dad-dubs-daughters-hairstyle-daddys-version-of-the-bun_n_5587851.html?utm_hp_ref=black-voices&ir=Black%20Voices

The Streets of London

Wow!  What a city!

I'm not sure what I was expecting, but London has far exceeded anything I hoped for. It truly is a magnificent city.  There are few places I've been that I want to return to, but this is definitely one of them.

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Random Building

Street corner

My favorite - The telephone booth.  Still in use!

This is "The Eye."  It's like a ferris wheel with 32 basket.
Each one represents a borough in London.

Big Ben

The aqua-colored image in the distance is a horse's head.
I'll work on finding a better shot.

I'm racing to the airport.

More when I'm in NY.

London Bridge

I just arrived at my hotel this morning about an hour ago, after an all night flight.

First impression of London - it's a beautiful city.  Warmer than I expected.  Public spaces are blooming with flowers throughout the city, creating an urban garden-like atmosphere.

The buildings remind me a lot of NY, particularly Manhattan.

Below is a picture of the Tower Bridge, I think.  I'll confirm that later.  This was taken from my hotel room.

I'm too tired to venture out today.  I plan to catch up on some much needed sleep, and explore the city tomorrow.

More soon.

Headed Home

Tomorrow I'll be headed back to the US.  I'm excited to get back to see family and friends.

The trip last year was painfully long (seventeen hours!), so I decided to break it up with a stopover in London for a few days.  It's just over seven hours from here, and New York (my first stop) is another seven hours or so.

Check out my traveling playlist.  If you receive these posts via email, I think you have to visit the page in order to access this feature.  The address is www.followingfaye.blogspot.com.

More soon from the road.

  

MJ Covers - Part 2

A couple of weeks ago, I posted a blog about the many different folks/genres that have covered Michael Jackson's music.  Thanks to Forrest, here's another one.

I wonder if these guys thought of this before or after they drank all that beer.

Enjoy "Beer Bottle Billie Jean."

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkbZlautuUc

Agree?

Best Soul Food Restaurants in the US?

http://www.theroot.com/articles/culture/2014/07/best_soul_food_national_guide_to_top_restauraunts.html?wpisrc=newsletter_jcr:content&mc_cid=81a67bd266&mc_eid=ac9b7800d4

The Pot Calling the Kettle Black

This is the fascinating story of a Washington Post reporter who was covering the crack addiction of former Washington D. C. Mayor Marion Berry and the devastating effect this epidemic had on the whole city, while he himself was addicted to crack.

http://www.npr.org/2014/07/03/327824529/addiction-battled-ambition-for-reporter-caught-in-d-c-s-crack-epidemic

Great Commercial

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xwndLOKQTDs

Happy Fourth of July!

I was reminded of the speech that Frederick Douglas gave on July 5, 1862 entitled "The Meaning of the Fourth of July for the Negro."  Although given 162 years ago, it continues to resonate in our world today.

Granted, we've made extraordinary gains, but the legacy of slavery lives on.

There is a powerful message in this speech.  I encourage you to take the time to read it, and then pass it on.

http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/aia/part4/4h2927t.html

By the way, was this included in your US history lessons?

I'm guessing the answer is no.

Let's Play

Dog can't understand why this man won't play with him/her.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/07/02/dog-tries-to-play-fetch-with-statue_n_5552270.html

Our Stories

Karyn Parsons, the actress who played "Hilary" on the Fresh Prince of Bel Air, has founded a company that creates videos for kids highlighting achievement in black history.

Check out her story and the stories she's creating below.

https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/798791271/the-janet-collins-story-presented-by-sweet-blackbe

The Power of Our Passport

I've noticed there are many places that I've traveled where it is relatively easy entering the country, where I didn't need a visa, or could get it when I landed.  Not so for many others holding passports from other countries.  The map below sheds light on this phenomena.

http://big.assets.huffingtonpost.com/GOOD_Passports.png