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Tuesday, March 10, 2015

Blistering!

This is a blazing commentary on the controversy of the fraternity at the University of Oklahoma.

H/T The Root - 

SAE, White Thugs and American Traditions

The video of fraternity boys singing a racist tune is just the latest exposé of the undercurrent of racism that permeates many institutions.
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The Klansmen of Sigma Alpha Epsilon fraternity have exposed to the world what many of us already know: Racism is part and parcel of white America’s most beloved traditions.

By now, most people have read about SAE’s University of Oklahoma chapter and its little diddy about hanging “n--gers from trees.” There has, of course, been the required uproar, complete with OU President David Boren’s issuing a blistering statement that OU doesn’t “provide student services for bigots.”

Oh, but they do. Along with most institutions in the United States of America, OU does indeed harbor bigots in their midst. These little grand wizards’ crime wasn’t that they sang the song; it’s that they got caught. When SAE was founded on March 9, 1856—159 years ago—in Tuscaloosa, Ala., “hanging n--gers from trees” was as commonplace as police officers shooting unarmed, black people today. As far back as 2011, SAE embraced its bad-boy reputation as the “nation’s deadliest fraternity” instead of admitting what many of its members really are: thugs.


Do not be bamboozled. They were who they were before they got there.

Yes, President Boren’s statement is powerful. It’s the kind of statement that is crafted after students on your campus chant about lynching “n--gers” from trees. It’s the kind of statement that seeks to separate “good” white folks from “bad” white folks while simultaneously deflecting from the systemic racism that permeates every facet of American life, from the boardroom to the courtroom to the classroom.

This is one of many reasons why so many black Americans distrust white people—particularly privileged white boys with wealth and access to power. Because they want us to believe this lie that racism can be flushed out and banned from campus. They want us to believe that making an example out of the little wanna-be massas absolves them from the responsibility of working to dismantle the white supremacy of which they so willingly partake.

I am neither angry nor surprised by these white extremists getting caught doing what white extremists do. This is American tradition. These are the words embedded in the psyches of these white fraternity brothers before they can even speak.

How do I know? My father was a proud member of Omega Psi Phi fraternity. By the time I was 5 or 6 years old, I was already walking around our home singing:

“I’ve got a feeling/ I’ve got a feeling, brother/I’ve got a feeling/Somebody trying to sneak in my frat/And it ain’t gon’ be no s--t like that.”

Those words were emblazoned on my mind like a Que brand, along with the words: “Omega man by day; Que Dog by night” and “Friendship is essential to the soul,” as well as understanding the importance of “manhood, scholarship, perseverance and uplift.”

At the same time somewhere in America, little white boys were traipsing around Confederate-flag-adorned homes, eagerly anticipating the day that they, too, could sing about segregation and murder with their fraternity brothers just like Daddy used to do. They, too, could stand in the tradition of white supremacists so afraid of being exposed as mediocre that they lean on plantation jingles to make them feel better about themselves.
It would be laughable if it weren’t so dangerous. We could shrug it off if these weren’t the boys who grow up to be the killers with badges who leave our children dead in the street, blaming them for their own deaths. We could feel sorry for the pathetic creatures they are if these weren’t the boys who grow up to be the men who execute black men when there is proof of their innocence. We could dismiss the women of Tri Delta who were captured singing along with their SAE brothers if these weren’t the girls who grow up to be the white feminists demanding that we put aside our struggles of being black in America to help them seize their equal piece of white supremacist pie.

As it often goes, this too shall pass and racism as American tradition will continue as it always does. Many of us have already shifted the dialogue from the insidious racism that SAE’s song represents to applauding President Boren’s strong condemnation of it—and that’s unfortunate.

Imagine for one moment that a black Greek-letter fraternity at an HBCU was captured on video singing, “I’m gonna get me a shotgun and kill all the whiteys I see.” We would know the name, GPA and arrest record of everyone on that bus and their family members. Some token African American, probably Charles Barkley, would pathologize blackness in prime time, and conservative pundits would spend weeks lamenting the lack of black fathers in the home, despite that being a proven myth.

But, oh to be white, young and racist in America. Luckily for them, and despite all black people have endured in this country, our traditions don’t mirror the casual bloodlust of their own. If it did, I’m sure they’d be singing a much different tune.

Sunday, March 8, 2015

Hanging With Ben

Ben made a layover stop in Abu Dhabi, on his way home from India, and we had a wonderful weekend together.

He arrived late this past Thursday night, and I picked him up on Friday morning and we headed to my old stomping ground, Al Ain.

He visited me over a year ago and we did the Abu and Dubai tours, so this visit he got a taste of a different part of this country.

Although I would have loved for him to see where I currently live, it was just too far. I'm three hours from the airport in Abu Dhabi, and with his quick turn around, there just wasn't enough hours in the day.

I absolutely loved our time.  Our conversations were so rich and free-flowing.  We talked for hours and hours.

Here we are having fun.



These pictures were taken at the airport, on his way home.


Abu Dhabi - March 7, 2015

Wednesday, March 4, 2015

Never Too Old

From People.com
91-Year-Old Lives Out Dream as Tech Designer at Silicon Valley Firm

  
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She may be decades older than her colleagues, but this 91-year-old woman brings all the wisdom she's collected in her long life – and that's something you can't teach. 

As a young girl, Barbara Beskind dreamed of becoming an inventor. Now, at 91 years old, she's seeing it through. 

Beskind works as a tech designer for IDEO, a Silicon Valley design firm, according to TODAY

Her passion for inventing began nine decades ago during the Great Depression, but she couldn't follow it because the related college courses were reserved for men. So she ended up joining the army and becoming an occupational therapist instead.

But she always had a passion for creating things. When she was 10 years old, she made a hobby horse out of old tires. 

"I learned a lot about gravity because I fell off so many times," Beskind tells TODAY. 

Two years ago, she read an article about IDEO, which is famous for creating the first mouse for Apple, and decided to apply for a job, saying: "Now nearly 90, I am anxious to be involved with others who share a passion for problem solving and innovative design." 

She leaves her senior living community, takes public transportation and walks a few blocks to the office every Thursday. 

"IDEO is my second family. Everybody gives you a hug and they're very supportive," she says. "On Thursday I feel 30 years younger." 

Beskind primarily works on projects pertaining to aging. She feels like her coworkers can't always put themselves in the shoes of the elderly. 

"People who design for the elderly think they need jeweled pill boxes or pink canes. We need functional equipment," Beskind says. 

"She's not afraid to roll up her sleeves," Gretchen Addi, who works at IDEO, tells PEOPLE. "She's just an incredible resource for us." 

And the designer is thankful for her job. 

"It makes aging more tolerable, more enjoyable, she tells NPR. "I enjoy the age I'm in. I think it's one of the best chapters of my life." 

Tuesday, March 3, 2015

It Makes Sense

One if the largest banks in this area is focusing on solar energy.  That makes so much sense because, I'm guessing but, we probably get 350 out of 365 days a year of sun.

http://www.salon.com/2015/03/03/one_of_the_biggest_banks_in_the_middle_east_is_betting_on_solar_power/?source=newsletter

Voices from within | Dan Slepian | TEDxSingSing

This ten minute video is one of the most powerful messages I've seen on the impact of gun violence.  Please take the time to watch this and then please pass it on.

Not So Friendly Skies

Etihad is the national airlines of Abu Dhabi.  Emirates is the national carrier for Dubai.  Together, along with other Persian Gulf airlines, they are ruffling the feathers of the big US airlines because they are offering more perks, mainly because they are heavily subsidized by their respective governments.

The US is crying . . . foul.

The Persian Gulf carriers are saying . . . it's not our fault your government won't help you.

Read the whole story in the link below.

http://www.nytimes.com/2015/03/03/business/etihad-airways-rapid-growth-frustrates-rivals.html?action=click&pgtype=Homepage&module=photo-spot-region&region=top-news&WT.nav=top-news&hp 

Monday, March 2, 2015

Could It Be?

From The Root - 

Nobody Believes These Biracial Twins Are Sisters

Maria and Lucy Aylmer, twins born to a black mother and a white father, are often thought to be friends instead of twins.
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One twin is said to be white and the other black.
The set of biracial twins, born in the United Kingdom to a white father and black mother, often stun those who don’t know them because they look nothing alike and are often mistaken as just friends, the New York Post reports.
The girls have even had to produce their birth certificates in order to prove that they are related.
“No one ever believes we are twins because I am white and Maria is black,” Lucy Aylmer said, according to the site. “Even when we dress alike, we still don’t even look like sisters, let alone twins.”
Their appearances came as a shock for the family, including their mother, Donna Douglas.
“It was such a shock for her because obviously things like skin color don’t show up on scans before birth,” Lucy added. “So she had no idea that we were so different. When the midwife handed us both to her, she was just speechless.”
Lucy, a redhead, who can easily pass for white, is the near polar opposite of her twin, Maria, who has dark hair and a darker complexion.
“All our older brothers and sisters have a skin color which is in between Maria and I,” Lucy said. “We are at opposite ends of the spectrum and they are all somewhere in between.”
However, for Lucy, at least, their differences are no problem, and they never have to worry about being mistaken for each other, as different as they are.
“We were in the same class at infant school, but no one ever had a problem telling us apart,” she said. “Most twins look like two peas in a pod—but Maria and I couldn’t look more different if we tried. We don’t even look like we have the same parents, let alone having been born at the same time.”

Camel Love

One of my teachers and I on a nearby camel farm.
This guy ran up to say hello.

Solomon Georgio Stand-Up 02/10/15 - CONAN on TBS

H/T The Upworthiest

Saturday, February 28, 2015

Second Chances

This is a terrific article about an amazing restaurant in Hawaii that gives prostitutes, convicts and others on the wrong side of the law, a second chance.

It's the feel good story of the day.

H/T The Huffington Post


Restaurant In Hawaii Offers Fresh Start For Former Prostitutes, Convicts, Others Who Need A Hand

When Mary Nelson started working at a restaurant in Honolulu last year, she hid in the back as a dishwasher.
Despite her lively personality and quick humor, she was too intimidated to interact with the customers, so for the first six months of the job, she washed dishes.
It was only the second job the 53-year-old had ever had. Before starting at Seed, a "justice restaurant" that provides employment for the community's at-risk population, Nelson had been a prostitute for 38 years.
She started working on the streets of New York City at the age of 14, after her mother committed suicide. When she was 18, she heard that clients were a lot less violent in Hawaii, so she hopped on a plane and moved to Waikiki.
It wasn't until she was in her early 50s that a church group persuaded her to leave the streets and try working at Seed. She spent the first six months washing dishes because she wanted to be far away from the customers or, what she would call, the "good people."
It was hard work, but the past year has been revolutionary for Nelson. She is now one of the most popular waitresses at the restaurant, and at Seed, she told The Huffington Post, "I get to be the person I was never able to be. I get to help people without someone trying to take advantage of me."
The Justice Restaurant
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Seed was founded by Jordan and Sonya Seng, community leaders at Bluewater Mission, a nondenominational church that runs a number of recovery homes for at-risk individuals in Hawaii. 
The recovery homes were succeeding as havens, but the Sengs and the organization kept running into one frustrating problem: They could not find these individuals jobs. So, they decided to create the jobs themselves.
Seed, a for-profit restaurant, was created to provide flexible jobs in the community. The restaurant -- which serves healthy, locally sourced meals -- is staffed by former convicts and prostitutes and victims of domestic violence, human trafficking and other societal or physical challenges.
"Seed is an expression of a whole community of people," Seng told The Huffington Post. "A lot of people we employ need a little care. So they get to exist in a broader community and that's where the bulk of the rehabilitation is done."
To assist the at-risk staff with their rehabilitation, an additional staff of "stable" employees take on more responsibility and, as Seng says, work twice as hard. Volunteers also jump on board, picking up shifts as often as twice a week.
"As much as possible, we run [Seed] like a normal restaurant, but with the understanding that we're also trying to develop job skills," Ryland Young, assistant general manager, said. "For those who are stable, the mission of our restaurant is what draws them and keeps them here."
"They can have less complicated jobs that pay better elsewhere," Seng added. "They work here because they're looking for jobs that mean a little more."
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Seed restaurant serves healthy, locally sourced meals. 
How It Works
When Seed hires a new at-risk employee, usually a person from Bluewater Mission's recovery homes or a word-of-mouth referral from an employee, he or she is placed in a specific role (dishwasher, cook, server, barista, etc.) and matched with a more experienced staffer. The two work together until the new hire can work independently.
Some positions, like cook, are more difficult to learn than others, but employees move up and advance at their own pace.
"When someone's ready to take on a challenge, we give it to them," Young said. "If there's someone who needs to take a little more time, like some of our servers who come from really tough situations, we take our time with them."
Nelson says she needed those first six months as a dishwasher. 
"I was always a people person," she says, "but with the wrong kind of people ... negative people [from] the street life. Then here I come around [to Seed] and it's a whole new world. I didn't want to deal with none of the humans. I was afraid of the rejection or that people would judge me or wouldn't trust me." 
When Seng finally persuaded her try out hostessing, she was pleasantly surprised. 
"I didn't get any of that," Nelson said. "I was able to be a people person with good people."
She was promoted to server, and her colorful personality now charms customers, especially kids. Seed's walls were once lined with all the drawings that kids left behind, addressed to Grandma Mary. Nelson has taken most of them home.
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Mary Nelson, pictured here during an interview with Career Changers TV.
Does It Work?
Seng says that for every 10 at-risk employees that come to work at Seed, four will successfully stabilize into normal lives. "Either they'll succeed here, or they'll succeed well enough to get a job elsewhere," he added. As the restaurant approaches its one year anniversary and prepares to close for renovations and fundraising, he hopes they can improve that number.
"There's a lot of things that we haven't figured out yet," Seng said. "But what makes it successful when it works is the degree that our employees succeed at forming friendships [with their coworkers] outside of the workplace. It's 300 percent better," compared to not having a community-based work environment.
When Nelson's birthday came around, for example, she invited her friends -- many of whom were still actively working on the streets of Waikiki -- to join her at Seed for dinner and meet her coworkers. She wanted them to see that there are people in the world who won't judge them. "I wanted to let these girls know that there are options," she said. "That if grandma can do it, they can too."
'I Never Thought I'd Be This Person I Am Now'
Nelson has been known to remind her fellow staffers that what she makes in a month at Seed, she used to make in one night on the streets. She had it all, she tells them: new cars, jewelry, travel, nice condos -- though, sometimes, beatings, rape and "so much horror" came with the price.
"[Y]ou can't buy what I'm going through right now. I'm on cloud nine," she says. "I never thought that I'd be in Hawaii and be this person I am now."
Nelson still lives in an apartment in Waikiki above the busy streets where she worked for more than 30 years. She says it would be easy to walk out her front door and find a customer, "but that hasn't happened and it's not going to. Seed has been a big influence on that."
Recently, Nelson took some time off work to go with her church on a trip to the Philippines to try and reach out to prostitutes working there. She's made it her mission to help women who are going through the life she freed herself from.
"I want those women to know there’s hope," she said. "[To them, I say:] You can change. There are people out there that really want to help and you’ve got to have faith and try to believe. Just like you went out there and took a chance on the streets, you’ve got to take a chance on this as well."
Watch Nelson talk about her past and her new life at Seed at 0:54 in the video below.

ALSO ON HUFFPOST:

Words of Wisdom

From a father to his teenage son, who like most teenagers, think his dad is clueless.

For the record, he's far from it.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/craig-tomashoff/10-things-i-want-my-son-to-know-even-if-he-isnt-listening-right-now_b_6600278.html

Friday, February 27, 2015

Old News for Some of Us

Terrorism and the proliferation of barbaric acts is front and center in much of the news we see and hear today.

It is being compared to atrocities that happened centuries ago, but as this article explains, we don't have to go abroad or way back in our own history to see these same kind of heinous acts by American citizens perpetrated on American citizens.

The money quote -

The Ku Klux Klan was a domestic terror organization from its beginning, said Pilgrim, who finds it offensive when, after 9/11, some Americans would bemoan that terrorism had finally breached U.S. borders. 
"That is ignoring and trivializing -- if not just summarily dismissing -- all the people, especially the peoples of color in this country, who were lynched in this country; who had their homes bombed in this country; who were victims of race riots," he said. 
Victims of lynching were often burned, castrated, shot, stabbed and, in some cases, beheaded. Bodies were then hung or dragged through towns for display. 
Most of these atrocities occurred during the eras of slavery, Reconstruction and Jim Crow -- but not all. 
It was 116 years after slavery and 40 years after Jim Crow when 19-year-old Michael Donald's body was found swinging gently from a Mobile, Alabama, camphor tree in 1981. A perfect hangman's knot containing 13 loops held the noose wrapped around his neck, and a squad of Klansmen stood on a porch across the street, looking on as the police gathered evidence. 

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/02/27/kkk-terrorist-organization_n_6764866.html

How soon we forget.

Or . . .

How soon we choose to forget.

Cat Music?

Yep.

Scientists . . .

No really,

SCIENTISTS . . .

Have been working on creating music specifically for our feline friends.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/02/27/music-for-cats_n_6761756.html

Here are sample tunes below.

http://www.musicforcats.com/samples/spooks_ditty.mp3

http://www.musicforcats.com/samples/cozmo_air.mp3

http://www.musicforcats.com/samples/rustys_ballad.mp3

OK cat owners/lovers -

Your mission, should you choose to accept, it to test these tunes out on your real critters and report back.

Inquiring minds want to know if this is the real deal.

Presenting . . . The Senior Citizens' Version of Uptown Funk

This could also work as a Ben-Gay commercial.

Bird Who?

I tried.

Honest to goodness I did.

But an hour into Birdman, the Academy Awarding Winner Best Picture flick, I quit.

It was just too painful to watch.

I kept thinking,

"This is the best?"

"This movie represents the best that America has to offer for cinematic excellence?"

God help us all then.

I thought the same thing when I tried watching Boyhood.  Forty-five minutes into the three-hour movie, and I gave up on it, too.

Like Oprah, here's what I know for sure.

Time is too precious to waste.

OK, let me be even clearer.

My time is too precious to waste on the cinematic junk food that is coming out of Hollywood.

Film makers really should stop what they're doing and watch a little TV.

They could learn a lot from the recent entry into quality programing.

Right now TV is putting the movies to shame.




Tuesday, February 24, 2015

Benefits to Diversity

From The Upworthy - 

A rare behind-the-curtain look at acting that's less glam and more racist

George Takei Curator: 
Underrepresented actors often have been complicit in creating ethnic stereotypes in the media. For my own part, I rented out my Asian face to Jerry Lewis back in the day.

Now we're not only speaking out, but creating, writing, and portraying who we are  as we are  in our great, dazzling diversity. As we contribute our authentic selves, the comedy becomes specific and real, the drama is distinctive and identifiable, and our society grows enriched and involving. 

Hollywood and the media now have the opportunity to actively engage with the talented diversity that comprises our entire society. But is it "to be or not to be? That is the question." — George Takei

Hollywood has a huge imagination.

In the last decade and a half, we've had:

Billionaire superheroes. 

Hot elves.

George Clooney in space.

But for some reason, there's one thing that Hollywood still has a truly, deeply, inexplicably hard time imagining.

Complex, three-dimensional characters of color. Yes, indeed. The entertainment industry has a diversity problem.

Sure, there are more people of color in film and television today than there were for the better part of the last century, but it's far from reflective of our national diversity.

And when casting directors do hire people of color, what they seem to want is more a caricature of reality than reality itself.

When they say things like, "We're looking for a specific type" or "Think more 'urban,'" what they really mean is ...

Casting discrimination isn't just a symbolic problem, it's a practical one.

2014 UCLA study found that TV shows with diverse casts draw higher-than-average ratings. The same study found that "films with relatively diverse casts excelled at the box office and in return on investment." In spite of that, white actors are favored in almost 70% of casting calls.
One of the actors in this video had this to say:
 "I oftentimes feel like, well, am I being racially paranoid, or is it in my head? But when you look at the numbers, not all artists of color can be crazy, you know? We're genuinely fighting the entertainment industry that seems very obsessed with telling Euro-centric stories and refuses to let go of it."

Film and television aren't made for casting directors or critics or even the actors themselves. 

They're made for consumers.
That's us, people.
And we're already voting with our feet. And our eyeballs.

More than 10 million people tuned in to the winter premiere of "Scandal," starring Kerry Washington as a public relations guru with a complicated past.

The series premiere of "How to Get Away with Murder," starring Viola Davis as a hard-charging attorney, attracted an unbelievable 20.3 million viewers

"Empire," starring Terrence Howard and Taraji P. Henson as warring music industry moguls, just set a record for the most consecutive ratings gains in all of television history

Real diversity isn't just some fantasy, bleeding-heart, we-are-the-world ideal. It's a proven moneymaker.

And while Hollywood might finally be waking up, we can help them wake up faster by tuning in to shows with characters of color who are treated with respect and represented as real people, not cartoons.
As consumers, we have choices and voices we can use to stop the stereotypes. So let's keep on using 'em, shall we? — Team Upworthy

Why I Write

I write because I love to talk.

I write because I love to share things I read about or things I've seen or experienced.

I write because I love a good argument.

I write because in this format, I win all of the arguments.

I write to vent.

I write to keep in touch.

I write about my life and the mistakes I've made in the hope of helping someone else avoid them.

I write to inspire.  Forgive my arrogance in assuming that someone could be inspired by my life, but I believe somewhere out there is a lonely, scared person just needing a nudge of encouragement to soar to great heights.

I write to be that nudge.

I write to be that encouragement.

I write to forgive . . . myself and others.

I write to express my appreciation for my life, my family and friends and the many blessings I receive every day.

I write in the hope of being a blessing to others.

I write to keep connected to you.

I write because I can.  My father was illiterate.  Seeing up close what a hinderance that was on so many levels, helped me to appreciate, and eventually to love, reading and writing.

I write, not because I'm particularly good at it, but because in many ways, it's therapeutic.

I write because I know now that my voice is as valid as anyone else's.

I write to leave a legacy for my grandchildren.

I write in hopes that they will one day, when they're lots older navigating the world around them, pick up these posts and get to know their crazy, wild, adventurous, and very opinionated Grandma.

I write to tell them "I love you."


Recognizing the Good

Ta-Nehisi Coates is one of my favorite writers.  He's a national correspondent for The Atlantic.  I don't always agree with him, but I love his arguments supporting whatever he's writing about.

Below is an excerpt from a piece he wrote about the recently deceased New York Times writer, David Carr.  He describes how David saw past his life as a troubled kid, and encouraged him to be the writer, and the man, he is today.

Before taking up my studies, I’d enjoyed a successful career as knucklehead, which is to say that before I practiced the trade of narrative argument, I practiced the art of fucking up. My résumé was impressive. On two separate occasions, in two consecutive years, I was kicked out of the same high school. When I was 14 years old, I was arrested for threatening a teacher. Two years later, I was suspended for the same thing. I was not a thug, to the extent such people even exist. I was the kind of kid who sat in the library reading all day, and then failed my literature classes. I was the kind of kid who minored in literature and then failed my literature class and my humanities classes. Adults often think children take a kind of rebellious pride in these sorts of antics. If so it is the pride of fuck-ups and knuckleheads, the shadow of a deep and abiding fear that your life is going nowhere.

In the February of 1996, I sent David Carr two poorly conceived college-newspaper articles and a chapbook of black-nationalist poetry—and David Carr hired me. I can’t even tell you what he saw. I know that I immediately felt unworthy—a feeling that never quite faded—because I was a knucklehead and a fuck-up. But what I didn't then know about David Carr was that he'd written and edited the knucklehead chronicles, and published annual editions wholly devoted to the craft of fucking-up. I think that David—recovering crack addict, recovering alcoholic, ex-cocaine dealer, lymphoma survivor, beautiful writer, gorgeous human—knew something about how a life of fucking up burrows itself into the bones of knuckleheads, and it changes there, transmutes into an abiding shame, a gnawing fear which likely dogs the reformed knucklehead right into the grave. Perhaps that fear could be turned into something beautiful. Perhaps a young journalist could pull power from that fear, could write from it, the way Bob Hayes ran with it, because the fear was not of anything earthly but of demons born from profound shame and fantastic imagination.

Find the entire piece at the link below.

http://www.theatlantic.com/national/archive/2015/02/king-david/385596/