Code of Conduct for NFL Wives

This is a first hand account of one woman's experience as an NFL wife.

http://www.motherjones.com/media/2014/09/ray-janay-rice-football-nfl-wives

Thoughts?

Recycling Your Smart Phone

With the launch of the new iPhones, people are going to be looking for ways to trade in, or in some way, reuse their old ones.

USA Today shows some pretty ingenious ways to do just that.

Watch.

http://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/personal/2014/09/14/creative-ways-to-use-your-old-phone/15446179/

Corporal Punishment

This sounds like such a harsh thing.

Corporal punishment.

Brutal.

Violent.

Savage.

That's what comes to mind when some folks hear the term.

But if we're talking about spankings, swatting a child on his or her bottom when they have misbehaved, I'm all for it.

I know.

I know.

There are folks out there who are categorically opposed to ever spanking/hitting a child for any reason.

I get it.

There are some who have gone too far and abused kids, and that should never happen.

But here's what I know for sure.

Kids better have the fear of God put in them when it comes to how they are to behave.

They had better be more afraid of the consequences of misbehaving when their parents find out, than from anything or anyone else.

As a principal, I used to tell kids I was going to call their parents, and if they responded with, "I don't care.  Call 'em."  I knew it would be a waste of time.

But if I said I was going to call home and they started shaking in their boots, I knew these kids were being disciplined at home.

There are parents who can achieve this without ever spanking their kids.

Kudos to them because that is no easy task.

But for me, spankings were always an option, and Ben and Frankie knew it.

My mother used to say, if you don't discipline kids when they're young, when they're older they'll be whupping you.

She used to also say that the jails and prisons were full of folks who someone thought was too cute to discipline.

Some will say this is "old school."

Maybe so.

But if raising a well-behaved kid is the result, then I will proudly wear that label.

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Now take a minute to check out this article.  The author makes some excellent points, especially the contrast between white and black parenting, but I beg to differ on the conclusion she makes.

http://www.salon.com/2014/09/16/the_racial_parenting_divide_what_adrian_peterson_reveals_about_black_and_white_child_rearing/?source=newsletter

What do you think?

Map of Independence

Check out the map in the article below that shows the many countries that have declared their independence from the United Kingdom.

Click the bottom right corner of the map to enlarge it.

http://www.salon.com/2014/09/16/this_map_shows_all_the_countries_that_have_declared_their_independence_from_the_united_kingdom/?source=newsletter

Amazing!

Right?

Vote YES Scotland and join this distinguished group of nations.

Made My Day

Have you had friend contact you out of the blue, and that simple gesture kept a smile on your face all day long?

That happened to me today when I was surprised by a video call from my dear friend Becky.

We met when I started teaching years ago.  She was my coach.  She was a young, master teacher who was awesome in the classroom, but even better at helping new teachers figure out what they were doing.

One of the many things I love about Becky was how she handled me and my non-compliance.  There were things we were expected to have posted in our classes, and that changed every few weeks.  I've got this thing about presentations being neat and symmetrical, so it would take me a minute to get the bulletin boards changed. When Becky would make her regular visits, she never fussed or made a big deal about what was missing, she'd just take me over to another classroom where whatever I was supposed to have done, was on full display.

And . . .

She never said a word.

I'd go back to my class and get it done.

And . . .

It worked every time.

I used to say that she shamed me into doing the right thing.

She quickly figured out what it would take to motivate me, and it was one of the many lessons I learned from her.

Thanks Becky, for all of your help way back when, and thanks for absolutely making my day today!

Workplace Bathroom Humor

Some of these are laugh out loud funny.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/gselevator/workplace-bathroom-etiquette_b_5812646.html

Closely Watching

I can't get enough of the news about the possibility of Scottish Independence.

The election is this Thursday, Sept. 18th.

If I could, I'd vote YES.

It's hard to believe the dominant influence Great Britain has had in places all over the world.  I've experienced it many times when I've visited countries where there is a preference for tea over coffee and driving on the left.  Far and wide the Brits have left their mark.  It's time more folks said, "Enough."

John Oliver does a terrific job of explaining the issues of Scottish Independence, enumerating the pros and cons.

The clip is about 15 minutes, but watching him is like reading the Cliff Notes, only much funnier.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?list=UU3XTzVzaHQEd30rQbuvCtTQ&v=-YkLPxQp_y0

Making History at Harvard

Alexis Wilkinson has made history as the first African-American woman president of the campus comedy magazine, the Harvard Lampoon.

Check out the article below from Salon where she discusses her experiences.

http://www.salon.com/2014/09/14/harvard_lampoon_president_alexis_wilkinson_opens_up_about_internet_parodies_race_and_gender/?source=newsletter

Turning Over in Their Graves

Not sure what prompted me to check out the ladies representing each state in the Miss America Pageant, but I did.  And lo and behold, representing Mississippi is a beautiful black woman.

Miss Mississippi - Jasmine Murray

Now, you and I both know there are plenty of folks in that great state that are turning over in their graves.

http://www.usatoday.com/picture-gallery/life/people/2014/09/13/miss-america-2015-contestants/15522751/

Unexpected Consequences

This guy (a scientist) gave his parents a gift of genetic testing.  He was getting one, and thought it would be great to have a more complete picture.  What they discovered was he had a brother no one knew about.

This information did not lead to a happy ending.

http://www.vox.com/2014/9/9/5975653/with-genetic-testing-i-gave-my-parents-the-gift-of-divorce-23andme

Is is possible to have too much information, or is this a case of not having enough?

Milestones

September is a month of celebrations in our world as Ben and Frankie and other family members celebrate birthdays.

Frankie was 31 years old on the 10th and Ben is 33 on the 16th.

For those of you with little ones, know this - in a blink of an eye, they will be all grown up.

It's hard to believe that the incident with Ben not being allowed to attend his 8th grade graduation or give the valedictorian speech because his haircut was deemed too short (the school was trying to discourage skinhead activity on campus - like black folks were likely to be skinheads was unfathomable, and was clearly irrelevant to the conversation at the time), happen 20 years ago!

Incredible!

Frankie headed to New York for college as a 16 year old who turned 17 weeks after arriving on campus.

That was fourteen years ago!

Unbelievable!

It's true, if they're this old, then that means I'm no spring chick, but I'm thankful for my 58 years on this planet.  They are many who haven't lived to see this, like Terry, my youngest brother, who passed away suddenly at 51, eight years ago.

So, the message today is, enjoy life.

If you have kids, savor the time with them.  Let the fun times outweigh the aggravating ones.

I know that that can be hard to do, especially when they become surly teenagers, but remember, this too shall pass.

Besides, if you're lucky, you'll get to enjoy the best part of being a parent, when you become a grandparent.  That's when the fun really begins.

Cheers!

Choosing Another Path

This video clip is a TED Talk by a young man who was raised to hate.  His father is a convicted terrorist.

His journey is a fascinating one.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/zak-ebrahim/zak-ebrahim-ted-book-terrorists-son_b_5811816.html

My Daily Fix

One of my news sources that is delivered with sass is The Daily Skimm.  It arrives via email everyday.

Check it out below.

Skimm for September 10th

QUOTE OF THE DAY “In real estate, location defines value and parking is no exception” – A NYC real-estate exec. A new luxury building has spaces going for $1 million. Parking spaces. Honk. SKIMM THIS

THINGS IN THE SPOTLIGHT

THE FRUIT THE STORY Yesterday, Apple invited a bunch of people over for a show-and-tell. There was lots of clapping. WHAT DO iWANT FOR CHRISTMAS? A watch and a phone. But you can only have the phone since the watch doesn’t come out until next year. There are two choices: the iPhone 6 and the iPhone 6 Plus. One’s a little tiny; the other’s a little full-figured. As for the watch, it’s like a Fitbit, a wallet, and a Tamagotchi all in one. With your choice of colors. If that didn’t make you realize how broke you’re about to be, Apple’s also got a new way for you to spend money — Apple Pay will let you store credit cards and pay for things on your phone and watch. iScared. theSKIMM Investors got really excited during the event, but after the sugar-high wore off they forgot about it and went on with their lives. Meanwhile, the Fruit’s new offerings show the company might be driving off into the luxury lane for good. SKIMM THIS

THE NFL THE STORY After indefinitely suspending Ray Rice this week, the NFL is getting a lot ofquestions. THE WHAT Earlier this week, video surfaced of star NFL running back Ray Rice punching his then-fiancee (now-wife) Janay Palmer in an elevator, apparently knocking her unconscious. Rice got cut from the Baltimore Ravens, and was indefinitely suspended from the NFL. Months ago, a shorter video was released showed Rice dragging Palmer from the elevator. In July, the NFL suspended him for two games, which basically everyone agreed was on the wrong side of lenient. Janay defended her husband yesterday, saying the media is making her family “relive a moment in our lives that we regret every day.” TERRIBLE STORY…BUT WHAT ARE WE STILL DEBATING? What the NFL knew and when. The NFL says it never saw the full video until everybody else did this week. NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell said the league assumed there was video of what happened in the elevator, but was “never granted [the] opportunity” to see it. Networking is hard. An official said the video wasn’t released to the NFL because it was “grand jury material.”  But some reporters are calling BS, pointing to league sources who seemed to know details of the full video back in July. See the problem? theSKIMM Ray Rice’s NFL career may be over – or maybe not if you ask Goodell — but the NFL is going to be dealing with questions about how it handled all this for a long time. Many would prefer discussing ways to prevent domestic violence.

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WHAT PEOPLE ARE WATCHING… ISIS. Today, Sec. of State John Kerry arrived in Iraq to talk to the country’s leaders about the fight against the Islamic militant group. He’s starting a tour of the Mideast to rally support. Back in Washington yesterday, President Obama met with Congressional leaders to remind them they can stand with him or without him to take action against ISIS. Or they can just watch him work. He’ll address the nation tonight about the US’s new strategy to fight the group, which could reportedly includeairstrikes in Syria. Meanwhile, yesterday, the US government got a bad grade from the family rep of Steven Sotloff – the US journalist who was beheaded by ISIS in a video released last week — for how it handled the situation. The Sotloff family says the White House wasn’t in regular communication with them like it said it was. Sotloff’s family also claims the journalist was sold to ISIS by another rebel group for up to $50,000 and the US could have done more to try to save him.

WHAT TO SAY WHEN YOUR FRIEND STEALS YOUR MILLION DOLLAR IDEA… Um, I invented Post-Its. Yesterday, Snapchat settled a lawsuit with ousted co-founder Reggie Brown for a confidential amount. The guys behind Snapchat also admitted for the first time that Brown came up with the idea for the app. Idea, shmidea. Brown was later pushed out and not given equity. So he sued. This all comes after Snapchat was recently valued at $10 billion. SKIMM THIS

WHAT TO SAY WHEN THE NEXT EPISODE OF “HOW I MET YOUR MOTHER” WON’T LOAD… Barney blocked. Today, Netflix and a bunch of other big-name websites like Etsy, Kickstarter, and WordPress are protesting to support net neutrality. The sites will be showing a picture of the ‘spinning wheel of death’ loading symbol — not to make sure you’re still breathing, but as a friendly reminder that this could be the future. Refresher: net neutrality is the idea that all content on the Internet should be treated equally, and preference shouldn’t be given to sites willing to pay for faster connections. That’s not what happens now. There’s currently no regulation over how Internet providers treat traffic from different websites. The FCC’s been listening to comments on some new rules for monitoring pay-to-play. They’re going to stop listening to everyone’s opinions next week. SKIMM THIS

WHAT TO SAY WHEN SOMEONE ASKS ABOUT YOUR COLLEGE’S RANKING… Who are you, my mother? Yesterday, US News & World Report released its annual “Best Colleges” list. For something new and different, Princeton, Harvard, and Yale are the top three universities and Williams is the top for liberal arts colleges. If your friends are posting about their ranking, time to make new friends.

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Vassar Victory!

Vassar is Frankie's alma mater, and it was just recognized as the most economically diverse top college.  Their generous financial aid package is what got Frankie through school.

YEAH Vassar!

Check out the complete list of school below.

http://www.nytimes.com/2014/09/09/upshot/top-colleges-that-enroll-rich-middle-class-and-poor.html?action=click&pgtype=Homepage&region=CColumn&module=MostEmailed&version=Full&src=me&WT.nav=MostEmailed&_r=0&abt=0002&abg=1

Defending An Outrageous Act

First of all, why in the world would a woman marry a man that has VICIOUSLY beat her?

I'm referring to the video of Ray Rice, the football player, beating the snot out of his then girlfriend.

She was an absolute fool for being with the guy, but let's assume this was the first time he put hands on her, although I'd bet the farm it wasn't.

There she is, in that elevator, being assaulted by a guy who is suppose to care for her.

OK.

She gets a pass that time for being stupid.

But to turn around and marry the guy???

That takes stupid to a whole new level.

No woman should ever feel so desperate to have a man, that she'll settle for one who uses her as a punching bag.

OH HELL NO!

And yet now, this lady not only married the beast, but she's defending him and their life together.

My message to her, and any other woman who finds herself in this same situation, is . . .

GET A FREAKING GRIP!

And . . .

GET THE HELL OUT OF DODGE BEFORE YOU END UP DEAD INSTEAD OF BRUISED AND BROKEN.

Ingenious!

What's your great idea?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/09/05/pizza-box-turns-into-plat_n_5766244.html

Great Ideas!

Check these out.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/09/07/organizing-solutions_n_5773932.html

Appalling!

It continues to shock me, although by now it shouldn't, how horrific we as human beings can treat each other.

Below you'll find ten examples of systematic horrors leveled against poor, ignorant, helpless folks - mostly by their governments.

Shame on us.

http://www.salon.com/2014/09/04/10_of_the_most_evil_medical_experiments_in_history_partner/?source=newsletter

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"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have."  --Anonymous

Lists

I enjoy reading the end-of-year lists, so the ones below are a real treat, arriving months early.

Peruse at your leisure.

http://www.bloomberg.com/visual-data/best-and-worst/

"How Was Your Day?"

Unless you have a "Chatty Patty," most kids are pretty mum when it comes to talking about how their day went at school.

The article below offers 25 questions to get those conversations started.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/liz-evans/25-ways-to-ask-your-kids-so-how-was-school-today-without-asking-them-so-how-was-school-today_b_5738338.html

I especially like this one:

12. If an alien spaceship came to your class and beamed someone up, who would you want them to take?

Happy chatting!

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A teacher affects eternity; he can never tell where his influence stops.  

--Henry B Adams