Under the best of circumstances, divorce is difficult. When kids are in the mix, it's even harder.
And yet, I will go to my grave forever thankful for my divorce and my life in the aftermath of it.
For me, divorce was empowering. For the first time in my life, I wasn't identified as part of someone else. I was no longer someone's wife.
I was me.
Just me.
And after the initial six months or so of "What in the world am I going to do?" I listened to my brothers, dusted myself off, and began life as a single mom.
Was it scary?
Absolutely!
Was it liberating?
Without a doubt.
Like nothing I'd experienced before.
I didn't discover who I was until I was alone making all of the decisions for my guys and I.
It was during this time of self-discovery that I decided I liked me.
Be damn what anyone else thought.
The fact that I liked myself, worts and all, was monumental.
And now, almost sixteen years later, there is no doubt, getting a divorce was the best decision I ever made.
My life has blossomed into something I could only have dreamed of before.
Was it hard sometimes?
Yes.
Was it worth it?
DEFINITELY!
~~~~~~~~~~
Below is a link to an article by a child of divorce who realized later in life that her parents divorce was a catalyst for great things in her life, too.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jeaiza-m-quinones/my-parents-divorce-change_b_6679668.html
And yet, I will go to my grave forever thankful for my divorce and my life in the aftermath of it.
For me, divorce was empowering. For the first time in my life, I wasn't identified as part of someone else. I was no longer someone's wife.
I was me.
Just me.
And after the initial six months or so of "What in the world am I going to do?" I listened to my brothers, dusted myself off, and began life as a single mom.
Was it scary?
Absolutely!
Was it liberating?
Without a doubt.
Like nothing I'd experienced before.
I didn't discover who I was until I was alone making all of the decisions for my guys and I.
It was during this time of self-discovery that I decided I liked me.
Be damn what anyone else thought.
The fact that I liked myself, worts and all, was monumental.
And now, almost sixteen years later, there is no doubt, getting a divorce was the best decision I ever made.
My life has blossomed into something I could only have dreamed of before.
Was it hard sometimes?
Yes.
Was it worth it?
DEFINITELY!
~~~~~~~~~~
Below is a link to an article by a child of divorce who realized later in life that her parents divorce was a catalyst for great things in her life, too.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jeaiza-m-quinones/my-parents-divorce-change_b_6679668.html
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